A different and respectful approach to divorce.
What is collaborative divorce?
Collaborative (team) divorce works well for individuals who feel more comfortable having an attorney represent them throughout the divorce process, to feel secure that their legal rights are being considered and protected, but simultaneously, helping you and your spouse peacefully create the term of your divorce. Specifically, collaborative divorce may work well for you in the following situations:
- When you want your attorney to protect your interests during the meetings
- When you want to stay out of court
- When you don’t want to fight with your spouse
- When you want to participate in creating your agreement
- When you want to tailor the agreement to your and your children’s needs and interests
- When you want to divorce peacefully
- When you may want to hire a neutral financial planner
- When you may want to hire a divorce coach
- When you want to protect your children
The Key Benefits of Collaborative Divorce
There’s no “win-lose” in this approach
Both attorneys are committed to helping you achieve an agreement that represents the interests of all members of the family. They understand that there’s nothing gained by being adversarial. Your attorney advocates for you, but at the same time, he or she is working with—not against—your spouse’s attorney.
Help at each point
Attorneys are familiar with the legal requirements of divorce and the issues that need to be resolved. Attorneys practicing collaborative law cooperate with each other and with their individual clients to reach resolution. Significantly, you must hire an attorney specifically trained in Collaborative Divorce Practice, not an attorney who tells you they are collaborative! That is very different.
Attorneys are in it for the right reasons
The collaborative attorneys don’t have any incentive to encourage an “us-against-them” situation. In fact, in true collaborative practice, you all sign what’s called a Collaborative Law Participation Agreement where everyone pledges that they will not go to court. Both attorneys pledge that they will not represent you in court.
Keeping everything in perspective
Sometimes, couples can get stuck arguing about relatively insignificant items and lose focus on what’s really important. Collaborative attorneys will help their clients—and their clients’ spouses—stay on track.
Your financial commitment to reaching an agreement is greater
If you don’t sign the Collaborative Law Participation Agreement, both you and your spouse would have to start all over again and find new attorneys to fight in court.
You still save money
While collaborative divorce is typically more expensive than mediation, it still represents very significant cost savings of time and money and emotional turmoil. Both spouses typically agree that the two attorneys will work together, rather than against each other, that they will engage a single financial consultant and/or parent-child professional, if necessary, rather than each spouse having to retain their own experts.
How do mediation and collaborative divorce differ?
The key difference between mediation and collaborative divorce is that in mediation, the mediator runs the show as she works with the couple to create an agreement. In collaborative divorce, the attorneys run the show as they protect their clients’ rights but simultaneously work with (not against) each other.
In other words, with collaborative divorce, the goal of reaching an agreement remains the same as it is with mediation. However, each spouse has his or her own attorney present at all meetings. Everyone works together as a team to find a resolution. In either approach, a neutral financial professional, a therapist, or a divorce coach may be part of the process.
Why should you call me?
Because I don’t just offer Mediation and Collaborative services because it’s the new trend. I’ve been specializing in this for over 20 years, and I can help you with any and all services that relate to your family conflicts, including divorce or separation and elder care agreements.
In addition, I am not only a highly trained and experienced attorney and mediator, but I also know exactly what you’re going through. As a result of my own experiences, I have chosen to work helping couples and families avoid the enormous amount of time, expense and emotional turmoil that litigation brings—and that I, myself, endured.
If Mediation is your best option, I can help you begin the process of working to reach a win-win agreement that addresses the needs of all involved, very cost-effectively. You don’t have to worry about having to spend a great deal of time and money, only to have a judge, who doesn’t even know you, dictate a win-lose decision that does nothing to help you move forward peacefully.
If Collaborative Divorce is right for you, I can represent you and help you, and work with your spouse’s attorney to reach a win-win agreement that addresses both of your needs, the needs of your spouse, and the needs of your children far more cost-effectively than litigation. You don’t have to worry about having to waste years and very significant amounts of money, only to have a judge, who doesn’t even know you, dictate a win-lose decision that does nothing to help you move forward peacefully.
Divorce is one of the most difficult and gut-wrenching experiences one can have. If you’re planning to divorce, or already involved in divorce proceedings, you already know that.
You’re unhappy. You’re worried. You’re under a great deal of stress. You’ve got a million decisions to make. Your children have been hurt enough. And you want to end all of the conflict, reduce tensions and divorce as peacefully as possible.