When I first started working in mediation over 20 years ago, people didn’t understand what I was doing. “Are you meditating?” they’d ask me. Law professors would ask me quizzically if I mended couples’ relationships. Mediation was in its infancy back then and when I started mediating everyone around me thought I was crazy to leave my very good litigation position. I was constantly told “Don’t give up your day job.” Even my mediation instructors told me that! But, I just knew mediation was the way to go!
Prior to my opening my mediation practice, I had an established and successful litigation practice. However, I felt so strongly about the benefits of mediation that I took the plunge; I left litigation behind me and started mediating. And I’ve never looked back.
Roll forward 20 years, and here we are in a world where mediation has finally taken hold. However, I find that the majority of people still don’t quite understand what mediation is. So, as a mediator with over 20 years of experience, I’d like to provide an introduction to mediation: What is it and how does it help people? I hear people saying the name and the term, but they don’t seem to have a grasp on what it actually is.
My job as a mediator is to neutrally facilitate discussions to help a couple in a divorce mediation come to resolutions, using creative techniques and listening tools. As a mediator, I’m not a judge. I’m not a jury, and I make no decisions for the couple. They make their own decisions. This is their process. They have total control over the decisions. And this process helps my clients create very solid agreements. I help couples deal with important subjects like parenting, custody, asset division, and anything else needed to deal with in order to separate and move on peacefully and amicably.
The mediation process saves couples money, time and stress. Litigation exponentially increases the amount of horror, turmoil and money spent. However, going to a litigating attorney is a knee-jerk reaction when people think of divorce. If you’re thinking of divorce, or have a loved one who is thinking of divorce, I highly recommend looking into mediation as an option. Find out what it is and meet with a mediator before deciding. Visit my website at SastowMediation.com for more information, or give me a call at the number below. I’m happy to speak to you and tell you firsthand how mediation can help your situation.